Compulsive Porn & Sexual Behavior Therapy for Iowa Professionals

It started as a stress reliever. Now it is a second job you are desperate to quit.

  • The "Vault" Standard: Strictly private pay. No insurance records. Your privacy is the absolute priority.

  • Clinical, Not Moral: We treat this as a dopamine regulation issue, not a character flaw.

  • Sex-Positive & Affirming: Whether you are single, married, or LGBTQIA+, we focus on your goals for healthy sexuality.

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The One Thing You Can’t "Manage" Away

You are a master of compartmentalization. You can run a boardroom, perform a surgery, or close a deal, all while keeping a massive secret locked away. But the wall between your "public life" and your "secret life" is getting thinner.

The Internal Cost of the Secret:

  • The Risk Calculation: You live with a low-grade terror of the "wrong" person seeing your search history: an IT audit at work, a spouse picking up your phone, or a shared iPad syncing the wrong data.

  • The "Numbing" Effect: You aren't just using porn or behaviors to get arousal; you are using them to numb out after high-stress days. But now, real intimacy feels flat, and your focus is fracturing.

  • The Time Theft: What used to take 15 minutes now takes hours. You are losing sleep, missing deadlines, or withdrawing from family time to feed the urge.

You are tired of the double life. It is time to integrate.

It’s Not a Moral Failing. It’s a Dopamine Loop.

High-achievers often try to stop through sheer willpower. They promise themselves "never again," only to relapse three days later when work gets stressful. This doesn't mean you are weak. It means you are fighting biology with logic, and biology is winning.

How We Fix the System:

1. Identifying the "Trigger Function"

We move past the shame ("I'm a pervert") and look at the data ("I use when I feel incompetent at work" or "I use to shut my brain off"). We identify exactly what the behavior is doing for you—regulating anxiety, providing a dopamine hit, or numbing loneliness—so we can find a replacement that actually works.

2. Breaking the Neurological Cycle

Pornography and compulsive sexual behaviors hijack the brain's reward system (the same way cocaine does). We use CBT and Mindfulness-Based Relapse Prevention to retrain your brain to tolerate stress without immediately demanding a chemical release. We lower the "noise" so you can think clearly again.

3. Rebuilding Real Intimacy

The ultimate cost of this addiction is isolation. You are hiding from the people who love you. We work on the skills to be present and intimate with a real partner, moving you from a cycle of "fantasy and shame" to a reality of connection and confidence.

Your Reputation is Safe Here

For many professionals, the fear of being "found out" prevents them from getting help. I have built this practice to be a fortress for your privacy.

  • No Insurance Trail: I am strictly private pay. I do not submit diagnostic codes (like "Compulsive Sexual Behavior") to insurance companies, meaning this remains off your permanent medical and employment records.

  • Solo Practice: You are not walking into a busy clinic waiting room. You are meeting with me, one-on-one, via a secure, encrypted connection from the privacy of your own space.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • "Sex Addiction" is a controversial term in the clinical world. Instead, I look at Compulsivity: Do you try to stop but can't? Does the behavior continue despite negative consequences? If the answer is yes, we have a problem to solve, regardless of what we call it.

  • No. My approach is Sex-Positive, not repressive. Our goal is to distinguish between healthy sexual expression (which enhances your life) and compulsive behavior (which drains it). We work toward a healthy, sustainable sexuality that aligns with your values, whether that involves a partner or not.

  • No. Your sessions are 100% confidential. I will not disclose anything to your partner without your explicit, written consent.

    Note: Many clients eventually choose to disclose to a partner as part of their healing process, but that is a decision you make when you are ready. I will never force it.

  • No. My approach is clinical, neurological, and psychological. While I respect your spiritual beliefs and can integrate them if you choose, I do not use shame, morality, or religious doctrine as therapeutic tools. We focus on brain science and behavior change.

  • Yes. The brain is plastic; it can be rewired. Once we interrupt the dopamine cycle and give you better tools to manage high-stakes stress, the "desperation" of the urge fades. You can get to a place where you go days or weeks without even thinking about it, simply because you no longer need it to function.

    • Intake & Strategy Session (90 Mins): $300.

    • Individual Session (50 Mins): $200.

    • Strictly Private Pay.

Stop Betting Your Career on a Secret.

You have worked too hard to build your life to let a hidden habit burn it down. Regain control of your focus, your relationships, and your integrity.

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